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A Letter to the Single Girl I Used to Be

This is part of a story series that can be read in any order. Click here to read more posts. Read on for what I would say if I could write a letter to myself to be read on March 4, 2015, the day before I met my Devin…

You’re about to meet him.

The man who will knock on the door and knock your socks off with how amazing he is. The man who will wink at you. The man who will call you beautiful–and you’ll believe him. The man you’ll date. The first and only man you’ll call yours.

The man you’ll marry.

Too soon to tell, but this weekend you’ll wonder. Oh, not tomorrow. Tomorrow you’ll be absolutely oblivious. When you open the door at Bible study on that ordinary Friday night and see him standing there, you will at first think it’s your friend Ashlyn knocking–that will be the reason you go to open the door at all.

It won’t be Ashlyn. It will be a man a whole lot cuter than his Facebook picture. He’ll send your heart into your stomach the first time you meet him because Spirit will say there’s just something about this one.

An Open Letter to the Single Girl I Used to Be

And there is.

 

You forget to shake his hand. You never do shake his hand. Instead, three weeks from the night you meet, he’ll catch you when you nearly fall out of your chair.

Don’t be afraid when he brings up that he would like to discuss boundaries. You will say specifically that hugging you is okay. And he will respect that, because he was thinking the same thing. He’ll go on to ask your permission first before he does so.

Warning: you’ll get it wrong. For that first hug, you’ll tiptoe and not quite reach him. This man of yours, he’s so tall but says he doesn’t mind how tiny you are. He doesn’t.

You’ll figure out how to hug him, promise. It won’t take you long. Where you find you fit, you can hear his heartbeat.

Dear single girl, wait for this. This man who woos you with flowers, who holds your door, who opens the truck door for you every single time without fail. This man who talks intention and marriage and movies and Marvel. This man who watches Pride and Prejudice and who reads Passion and Purity with you.

He is worth the risk.

If I could tell you just one thing, that would be it: He is so very much worth the risk.

Your stomach will cramp the worst you’ve ever known on the night you first say yes to him. Say yes to going on a first date the next day three weeks after you met.

Your eyes will well with how weighty it all is–the chance that this might be your Forever. The fear that it might not. Your heart will hurt for weeks because you want to trust him but you’re scared to.

He is more than you think. He waits. He waits three months to ask you to be his girlfriend. He waits two weeks after you’re Official to hold your hand. Even though you tried to make it easy for him and held your purse in your other hand…

He is patient like that. He is fiercely loyal. Protective. But never smothering. He claims you as his girl in front of his friends, your friends, on Facebook, and in his prayers.

Aloud.

You will fear. You will worry. You will get so anxious you will get mad at nothing. Your body will betray you and get sick because this feels so significant. This is your first relationship. And he won’t mind that you get it wrong sometimes. This is your first boyfriend. And you won’t be able to call him that because he’s so not a boy.

He’s a man who likes you and tells you so and tells you why. He calls you beautiful and talented. He admits your being a romance novelist intimidated him slightly. You write love stories.

Dear single girl, this just might be yours.

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  1. Sibo says

    August 2, 2017 at 6:58 pm

    Hey Rachelle,
    I cried when I read this. Yesterday I prayed and asked God to give me some sign that the one I’m waiting for is on the way and then today I read this. I know God has someone for me but some days the waiting gets too much and I need some form of reassurance and this time God used your article. Thank you for writing this. I feel like you described everything I look forward to, right to the holding hands for the first time.

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    • Rachelle says

      August 2, 2017 at 7:27 pm

      Sibo, thank you so much for sharing that. That touches my heart that my writing touched yours. The waiting can be sooo hard! Hang in there! Have you heard of the blog KindredGrace.com? I’m one of the writers and I just love the gentle way a lot of posts focus on seeking God when life makes us weary.

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      • Sibo says

        August 2, 2017 at 8:01 pm

        Thanks Rachelle! I love KindredGrace.com, that’s how I ended up following you on twitter and how I saw this article when you posted it today. I always turn there for inspiration. You guys rock:-)

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        • Rachelle says

          August 3, 2017 at 6:25 pm

          Oh how neat! Thank you so much, Sibo. I love serving with the other ladies there. :)

          Reply
  2. Maddie says

    April 29, 2016 at 1:55 pm

    Oh goodness, this is soooo cute. I love it.

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    • Rachelle says

      May 3, 2016 at 5:31 pm

      Thank you, Maddie! :)

      Reply
  3. Caroline Rose Kraft says

    April 28, 2016 at 9:01 pm

    Oh, how I love this! :)

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    • Rachelle says

      May 3, 2016 at 5:31 pm

      <3 <3 <3

      Reply

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